Share these questions with your spouse:

• When do you catch yourself playing the “If, then” game? How does that affect your relationship with your spouse?

• Do you consider you spouse a teammate? Do you treat him or her as a teammate?

• Would you consider you and your spouse to be on the same team, working from the same playbook in all aspects of your marriage? Why?

• Do you play any games with your marriage? Which ones? Who wins? Who loses?

• Describe to your spouse your mindset when you make love with each other. Do you play a game so that you get what you want?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• What is love?

• What is intimacy?

• How would you describe the intimacy within your marriage?

• What does giving a gift mean to you?

• Are some gifts more significant than others? Why?

• What is the most significant gift you can give? Are you willing to give it?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• Scripture says that we are made in the image of God. What does that mean to you?

• What quality do you most like about yourself?

• What do you most like about your physical appearance?

• What quality do you most like about your spouse?

• What do you most like about your spouse’s physical appearance

Share these questions with your spouse:

• How connected do you feel to your spouse?

• What parts of life do you share that bring you closer to your spouse?

• What parts of life keep you from connecting with your spouse?

• When was the last time you said to your spouse, “I love you” in way that came from your heart?

• How often are you physically intimate with each other?

• What meaning does “making love” have for you and the way you connect with your spouse?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• What did you want to grow up to be when you were a child? Did your plan come true?

• Does your vocation define who you are? Why?

• What role does God play in your vocation?

• Have you ever considered your marriage to be a calling from God? Share with your spouse.

• What are some examples of you being humble and gentle and patient with your spouse?

• Does your marriage strengthen your relationship with God? How?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• Get a piece of paper and make a list of all the things you are thankful for in your spouse. Read your list out loud to your spouse and then give your list to your spouse.

• Write a Psalm of Thanksgiving to your spouse.

• Do you say, “thank you” to your spouse with words or with deeds? How often do you say thank you?

• What are you willing to do to be a better partner for your spouse? Give specific examples

Share these questions with your spouse:

• Even if your spouse already knows the story, tell your spouse the story of your family and your growing up years. How has that experience shaped you?

• What do you like most about the family you grew up with?

• What have you learned the most from the family you grew up with?

• What do you like most about the family you are creating?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• How often do you and your spouse pray together?

• How often do you and your spouse worship together?

• Where is God in your life?

• Where is God in your marriage?

• How can you and your spouse include God more in your marriage? What steps are you willing to take?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• Spend some time making a list of all the great moments you recall in your marriage. Read the list aloud to your spouse and give your spouse your list.

• What made those moments special?

• What meaning did those moments have for you?

• What do those memories say about you? About your spouse?

• How often do you work to create new special moments for your spouse? Are those moments recognized and appreciated?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• How would you rate the feeling of love in your marriage right now?

• What are some ways you can focus on your spouse and share the love you have in a way he or she will know how you feel?

• What is one example in your marriage when you had to work hard for love to endure in your relationship? What was the situation? What did you do? How did you feel when it was over?

• When times get tough, do you reach out for help or do you try to go at things alone? How does your spouse react to you?

• What are some difficult issues you see coming in the future with your marriage? How will you endure?

Share these questions with your spouse:

• When do you catch yourself playing the “If, then” game? How does that affect your relationship with your spouse?

• Do you consider you spouse a teammate? Do you treat him or her as a teammate?

• Would you consider you and your spouse to be on the same team, working from the same playbook in all aspects of your marriage? Why?

• Do you play any games with your marriage? Which ones? Who wins? Who loses?

• Describe to your spouse your mindset when you make love with each other. Do you play a game so that you get what you want

Share these questions with your spouse:

• If you compared you marriage to a vase of flowers, would it be fresh-cut and smelling pretty; nice to look at, but lost the aroma; drooping buds with petals on the table; dried up and crunchy flowers; rose bush with strong blooms? Why do you say that?

• How do you care and nurture and feed the love in your marriage and for your spouse?

• How often do you talk on a deep level to your spouse? Does that need to change? How?

• How often do you spend quality adult time with your spouse? Does that need to change? How?

• How often do your actions show your love for your spouse? Does that need to change? How?

• What can you do, individually, to continue total intimacy with your spouse?

• What can you do, together, to continue total intimacy with each other?

• What steps are you willing to make together? Write out some steps or an action plan on what You can do together to remain closely connected and intimate.